You cannot give what you do not have. True happiness is an "inside job," and seeking it from others leads to dependency and suffering.
An allegory explaining that if you have an abundance of love (food) in your own "kitchen," you won't accept "scraps" from others just to survive. Download Don Miguel Ruiz maitrise l'amour(1) pdf
Humans carry emotional "parasites" or wounds from past traumas. These wounds create "emotional poison" like anger and jealousy that contaminate relationships. You cannot give what you do not have